I've mentioned this before, that unless you are knee deep in it, you do not know the true feeling of it. My daughter will be going for her follow up pet scan on Thursday. We know everything will be fine but it's the combination of it all that can bring you to your knees. If you feel someone has enough love and support from family and friends while they are going through a difficult time, they do not. It can never be enough. And my daughter is feeling this weight and she talks about this in her latest blog post, Blips and Happiness. I have found during the last 6 months that some will shy away, not knowing what to say. Some will stop calling you all together and I don't know why.
I know from experience that many things may keep you from reaching out. It could be the fear of the unknown. What if something has gone wrong. Maybe you don’t want to bother them or overwhelm them because their life is overwhelming enough as it is, so why add to it. And there is truth to that, but it can not keep you from reaching out to those who don’t know what the next minute will bring let alone the next day, week, month or year. There are ways you can reach out without having to disrupt their day. You can send a card, a text, a private message. All these can be done in a few minutes. It can be anything that would take their mind off of what’s going on so they can get a glimpse of some goodness in the world.
I am truly amazed at the people who I thought were my friends, who just quietly went away. And those who I knew, but didn’t really consider us to be close, who came out in full force when Emily was first diagnosed. One particular time comes to mind, when brother passed away a client/friend came to the funeral. Sought me out to just give me a hug, she said. She told me she just had to come and tell me how sorry she was. In her I saw kindness, compassion and a deep sense of what it means to be there for someone who desperately needs it.
If you have love in your heart, you must give it away, especially to those who are going through difficult and trying times. Don’t talk yourself out of reaching out. You may just turn their day, perspective, or life around.